A Man’s Mind – The Best Way In


The mind can be thought of as a set of cognitive faculties including consciousness, perfection, thinking, judgment and memory. It holds the power of imagination, recognition and appreciation, and is responsible for processing feelings and emotions, resulting in attitudes and actions.

That being said, this article aims to take a quick look at what goes on inside a man’s mind on a daily basis rather than bore you with the literal description of the mind, body and soul.
As you know, a lot of people are into certain romantic relationships and yet live like singles. This is often times as a result of personal interests they pursue rather than collective happiness.

They live single lives probably because they don’t understand themselves or the person they are in a relationship with. However, when there is understanding in a relationship, you are able to come to a compromise and know what to expect and what not to expect.

A lot of things can happen in a man’s mind. In a man’s mind lies his future and anyone who is a barrier to whatever he wants to achieve, is stepping in as an enemy of the man’s future.

The man would see the person as an opponent or an opposition to the attainment of the vision, which he considers paramount. But have no fear because there may just be a solution in sight.

Dalai Lama once said that “A calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence, so that’s very important for good health.”

The thing is, men want commitment; be it from work, relationships, and family or among friends. They really are not that confusing but will only commit to a person who is not out to control them with the whole of man-management.

Men do not need someone to control and mother them and when this happens it is an instant turn-off. Men like to be in control of their own space, doing what they want to do, when they want to do it and how they want same done. Most often times, you will have to be a person of extraordinary character to make a man give up his control.

You want to get into a man’s mind? While the traditional way of getting into a man’s heart is through his stomach, the mind of a man is a different ball game altogether. Each of the bullet points below have been summarized to help you understand how a man’s mind works and how best you can penetrate it.

Oh wait, do not attempt to use this knowledge to your advantage. This is only to help you understand the man, build a better relationship with him and also to fare easily with him:

Never Let a Man Decide All That Transpires in Love: There should be a communication channel between you and him, not about what you want him to do or change but rather what is healthy for the relationship. The minute a man feels you’re trying to change him or tell him what to do you have lost his attraction. So, be clear on what you do and always make your plans known to him directly. This way he wants to give you the attention and care you want.

Do Not Accept Low-Grade Treatment: you see men do not want to walk all over you. They want a woman they can respect. Men like the challenge and not what comes too easy, so do not be afraid to challenge him. Stand your ground and make your claim in a calm and thoughtful way by being who you are from your truth.

Getting Freedom: Most men need freedom and are attracted to those women who would not keep him from doing the healthy things he enjoys for himself. Men want to be with a woman who can be flexible and give him the slack he needs to do the things which make him happy. Be flexible with your plans instead of being rigid or setting the rules.

Maturity: Oh yes men love class and the ability to make a woman pleased. It is a turn off to them when women nag, complain or pressure. For goodness sake this is what children do to get their way or to pass a message when they’re feeling hurt or discomfort. When communicating with a man do your best to create a positive emotional environment.

Sexual Attraction: Men are attracted to what they cannot control or predict. They obsess over women who play, give them attention and then don’t feel the need to talk the next day.
Constant need and desperation are probably the biggest attraction assassins for a man. One thing to keep in mind is men fall in love in your absence while you fall in love in their presence so it matters a great deal what you leave them with when you are not around.

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